Pamela Nikodem, M.S.
Anger: The Impossible People
An article Previously posted to Medium: https://medium.com/human-behavior-the-good-the-bad-and-the-ugly/why-focused-attention-helps-you-overcome-anger-7ee377cd75d8
The impossible people in your life may not even realize how they affect your world. In my lifetime, I’ve walked alongside people who rubbed my emotions raw. In retrospect, I gave them the power over me. As I have grown, my ability to process my feelings helps me work with clients who are angry. Since we are all unique and individualized, no two people struggle the same exact way.
The same thing happens with anger. Anger helps us stay safe, alert, and ready to jump if needed. As a secondary emotion, anger helps by a reduction of fear, worry, embarrassment, or negative self-talk.
Read further for a proven tool, which helped me overcome my anger. It is a tool to help reduce your symptoms. As you remove the talons of anger from your mind, maybe you’ll become a funnel for others to find freedom.
Instead of feeling the uncomfortable emotions associated with fear or embarrassment, anger shows up to save us; then by isolation, it destroys connection.
We hold anger in the place of pain. Like a buffer to difficult feelings. Anger propels and thrives with blame and resentment.
If we neglect the process of anger awareness, we neglect the ability to heal from the foundational reasons we experience the emotion. You cannot heal what you refuse to explore.
Just a thought by Pamela